Coming Out: I'm Not A Submissive

Yes, I'm still alive. And yes, Dave and I are still together, and still spankos. Now that we've gotten that out of the way ...

Recently we've been going though this sort of Relationship Identity Crisis, of sorts. Some of it has stemmed, I'm sure, from some insecurity about our future, and some of it has stemmed from the fact that he actively seeks out and spanks other girls -- which I've always been "ok" with, on the surface, but I'm somewhat bothered by in truth.

That said, I have a friend who is sort of my mentor in 'the scene,' and also one of my very best friends even though he lives very far away. We talk a lot and we've spoken about some of these issues and I told him, "Sometimes I feel like I'm not very submissive and it really makes me feel awful." That's when he really blew my mind ...

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By Angie on 07 August 2007 in Angie, Musings | Permalink | Comments (8) | TrackBack

Health & Safety Issues - Part II

(Read the previous post first if you want the back-story)

OK. Full tummy and some time off of my sore butt and now I'm ready to continue. :) I'm sitting on two pillows as I write this but it still hurts. *sigh*

So, I got to Dave's and he was still in the shower. I was all nervous and having trouble looking at him when he got out of the shower and greeted me. I did spill that I had something else to tell him but that DH told me I shouldn't tell him until after. He guessed right away why that was, which I thought was sort of eerie -- do they ALL think alike? He says, "It's so ridiculous that he figures it's going to require a separate punishment?"  I just blushed. "Well, we're going to follow his lead. He's got more experience than both of us, and he knows what the big secret is. If he told you to wait on telling me then you're going to wait."

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By Angie on 30 July 2006 in Angie, Slice of life | Permalink | Comments (16) | TrackBack

Health & Safety Issues

Dave has started a new job where he will be travelling a lot - 3 or 4 days a week - and it put me into panic mode, in some ways. I always feel somewhat at odds in this relationship -- wanting to be the strong, loving life-partner that is there to be his rock; wanting to be allowed to make mistakes and have the little girl in me taken care of and taken in hand. He's been on vacation with his family, and then on a business trip, and in the time that he was away I had a major medical emergency (well, semi-major) that was very scary to me.

My asthma, which is normally not a big deal at all, got really bad and stayed bad for over a week. By the time I ended up up in the hospital, my inhaler wasn't working at all. I realized when I took it out to clean it off on Friday, after my doctor's office was already closed, that the damn thing was expired and had been for almost a year. I had no refills (again, the asthma isn't a *problem* normally - so I haven't brought it up at a doctor's visit for quite some time) at any of the pharmacies around town and my doctor wasn't calling me back. An ER visit occurred on Saturday where it turned out I had a nasty case of bronchitis, needed steroids, a breathing treatment, a new inhaler, and antibiotics. Dave saw me through all of this over the phone, because he was out of town, and he never scolded or lectured about the expired inhaler. He could tell I was scared to death as it was.

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By Angie on 30 July 2006 in Angie, Slice of life | Permalink | Comments (2) | TrackBack


I recently moved into an apartment with very thin walls. The other day, I was treated to the details of my upstairs neighbor's 12:15 am booty call. (Oh yes, it was lovely. Twelve minutes of hard banging on a squeaky bed. I was simultaneously jealous and pissed off.) Anyway, This has me REALLY worried about the Sounds of Spanking.

I need some ideas for quiet toys. I've heard that Loopy Johnnies are quiet. Are they not also deathly painful? Is there anything else that's relatively quiet? Please throw me your ideas. My apartment is so convenient to D's work so while heavy-duty type of punishments need to be reserved for his house, where the neighbors are pretty far away, we'll still be doing stuff at my place and he and I both tend to be kind of shy about people hearing us.

By Angie on 03 July 2006 in Angie | Permalink | Comments (11) | TrackBack

Not my best writing ever ...

Hi everyone. :) I just posted this in my Livejournal, but I wanted to get it here, too, just so everyone knows that I'm not dead -- or, worse, Vanilla.

I got a spanking today. It was asked for, and deserved, and needed -- but none of that takes away the sting or the blow to my pride, or the moments where I wanted it to stop. It had been a very long time coming. Ever since I was diagnosed, D's seemed less and less inclined to be dominant in any way. He's been loving, and giving; but his kink-needs have been on a sort of down-wave, and coupled with my pain and depression I think he's just felt it was better not to 'go there.'

But lately I've been begging for that part of my life back.

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By Angie on 22 June 2006 in Angie, Slice of life | Permalink | Comments (6) | TrackBack

My Notebook

The last couple of months have been weird as far as discipline goes. I've been spanked here and there, sporadically, for various things. But, there hasn't been much consistency and that's due to a LOT of different things -- illnesses, vacations, frustration.  What usually happens with me didn't fail to happen this time. I got completely out of control, sank into a depression, and felt like the only way to get out of this was to start enforcing some structure and discipline. Fortunately, I have a man who agrees.

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By Angie on 09 February 2006 in Angie, Slice of life | Permalink | Comments (9) | TrackBack

Something to write about

I've been MIA for awhile now. I'm sorry about that, and I sort of feel like I should be punished for it. Why? Well, because my lack of participation hasn't been an "I'm just so busy" kind of thing, it's been a "I suck and shouldn't even attempt to write" sort of thing. More on that another day.

The main thing I wanted to write about is this decision-making process I'm in right now regarding discipline. See, Dave spanks me for real life stuff -- we've established that in the past. But, I'm trying to lose weight right now and I'm actually going to Weight Watchers meetings, and I've been feeling like some help in that area might be a good thing ...

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By Angie on 27 November 2005 in Angie, Slice of life | Permalink | Comments (7) | TrackBack


I've decided that I'm very annoyed by people who write incredibly sexist things regarding domestic discipline (or whatever you want to call it - I think for the purposes of this blog WWD, or What We Do, seems to sum it up best). I'm tired of reading long essays describing how best to take a woman in hand, or deal with her "feminine misbehavior" or any of that SHIT. (I didn't ask if profanity was okay ... If it's not, I'll edit it. Or take some paddle swats for it. :) I know a guy on the couch in the next room who'd be happy to oblige). Why does that attitude seem so prevalent in this "scene?"  And yes ... I know there are MANY guys out there who don't take that line, but there are a lot who do. And even some women who do ...

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By Angie on 17 February 2005 in Angie, Musings | Permalink | Comments (20) | TrackBack

Getting Back on Track

I was punished today.

Basically, I have very simple rules. Drink at least 32 ounces of water each day (you wouldn't believe how incredibly difficult this is for me!), clean the cat's litterbox Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays, and use the Clinique stuff I just got for my face as directed -- which means the cleanser and creams each night and the creams in the morning. These are basic, simple, ordinary things -- things I should be doing anyway, without external motivation.

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By Angie on 13 February 2005 in Angie, Slice of life | Permalink | Comments (5) | TrackBack

How it's Supposed to Be

Sometimes I have a really bad temper. In the morning, when things seem to be going wrong, and I'm overly tired, it can be especially bad. Dave is very easy-going. Rarely, if ever, yells. And he *never* yells at me. So, when my temper gets out of control and I blow up at him it's inexcusable.  I tell you that to tell you this ... Last Wednesday I learned a good lesson about tempers.

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By Angie on 03 February 2005 in Angie, Slice of life | Permalink | Comments (2) | TrackBack

All About Angie

I have been instructed to write an introduction. This is a good thing -- when I'm instructed to write I'm much more likely to do it. I respond well to assignments.

But, I feel kind of dumb trying to start this. Um ... I'm Angie. Hence the user name. I live in Raleigh, NC with my boyfriend of almost one year (February 7th marks our anniversary). His name is Dave. I'm not really supposed to call him David, but I love to. It means "beloved" and I find that very fitting.

When he and I met I was at this point in my life where I basically just wanted to give up on the scene.

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By Angie on 31 January 2005 in Angie | Permalink | Comments (5) | TrackBack