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About consent

This is just a quick note based on some comments we've had here recently.  We all freely to consent and in many cases initiated discipline / punishment relationships.

This is not a blog about wives and girlfriends who get beaten because that's the way wives and girlfriends should be treated by the men or women in their lives.  It's a real life discussion (albeit rather a slow one lately) by women who freely choose this because, for whatever reasons (it varies -- just ask us, we've been writing for six years here alone) it works for us. 

How does discipline / punishment work for me?  I like it.  I like the way it makes me feel.  How does it make me feel? Focused.  Loved.  Respected.  Looked after.  Powerful.  That Paul punishes me makes me, well, feel lust in my heart toward him.  If he decided he didn't want to do it anymore, I would feel the loss.  I asked for this -- I love that we have this dynamic between us, want Paul to have the power to punish me if and  when he decides to do it.

Go ahead and think me twisted or sick if you want.  But don't paint me as an unwilling victim.  I won't let you. 

Posted by Mija on 28 February 2011 at 04:03 PM in About the PB | Permalink | Comments (9) | TrackBack (0)

PB 2010 Closing Days -- Opening Lines

Calendar [I got the idea for this blog post from padme's blog (and she got it from viemoira's who got it from -- well you get the idea --) and it seemed like a fun idea. I did it first on my own blog and liked it so much I decided we should have one here too. This blog entry is constructed by taking the opening sentence or two from the first blog post of each month.]

We missed Love Our Lurkers this year, but I though the PB could offer a Thank You to our readers and also play along with this way to close the blog for 2010 and ring in 2011.  I didn't note who wrote what because, well that's not the point and it's on the posts anyway.  Thanks for being with us in 2010 -- I'm looking forward to where 2011 takes us.

January: I've had this plan for a while now to write about topics other than specific punishments. There are a lot of things that float around in my head and some day I will have some spare time and be able to actually sit down and write about some of them.

February: Parenting kids in a kinky household really is different. I suppose everyone experiences parenthood differently, but I think kinksters definitely have unique challenges.

March:  Last week (at least it was last week when I started this post) I read Jessica Wakeman's piece over at The Frisky about her first D/s relationship and was going to write about the similarities/differences with my own first spanking relationship. 

April: I've been organizing the books in our apartment, as they are threatening to take over the place, and I found this gem among Papa Otter's erotica collection.

May: Crashing has a way of putting me in a very Natty mood. And last Wednesday, after a long Mother's Day, a longer ME/CFS Awareness Day, and a trip to the acupuncturist, I crashed.

June: Dear Readers, Please be patient with me as I hash out one of the age old questions of kinky people: What is the purpose of punishment? I am sure you've all seen articles and opinion pieces about this before, but I'm not asking it in general. I'm asking it for myself. Why do Master and I include punishment in our relationship?

July: PB was off this month.  How shameful!

August: This is the first time I've written about this at the time rather than after a restart, maybe because the reason doesn't seem quite as personal as has sometimes been the case.  We're not doing punishment right now.  

September: I am only recently starting to get back my spanking mojo after an extended hiatus for pregnancy- and postpartum-related issues.

October: Chris (of sparkle and Chris) and I have been having a conversation lately about what he as a top gets out of the punishment dynamic.  We thought it made for an interesting post, since we talk a lot about what the bottom gets out of a discipline/punishment arrangement, but we don’t hear about the other side very often (or if we do, it’s from an unrealistic Tops Are Superior Creatures perspective).

November: Today I was thinking about my first time. I guess for most people (read: Vanillas) the “first time” means when they lost their virginity. I could tell you that story but it’s boring and sad.

December: In discipline or punishment terms, I always choose the not-spanking option.

Ring out the old year, ring in the new!  And if you decide to blog your year's opening lines, let us know! 

 

 

Posted by Mija on 15 December 2010 at 11:10 AM in About the PB, Games, Mija, Weblogs | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

Our Wooden Valentine: 5 Years, 201 Posts, 1.6 Million Visitors

WoodenHeart  In late 2004, after Paul opened an account for us on Typepad and, after I played with a personal blog and got the hang of it, I wrote to a few friends. These were women I'd met online in the previous decade, but also gotten to know on different levels in real life. We were very different, but had in common a love of writing and a fascination with the use of discipline and punishment in real life relationships. You see, I had an idea -- we could start a group blog (there weren't many then) as a place to discuss the nitty gritty of trying to make a discipline relationships work in our respective "real" worlds.  Because they're such good friends they claimed to be both excited and flattered and were sure it would be great fun.  From the start, I knew we should call it "The Punishment Book."

February 2005, the blog entry officially opening and explaining The Punishment Book read:

Punishment books were records kept by schools and reformatories recording punishments given. Records were kept of who punishments were given to, how much and why each punishment had been given. Most often, though not always, the punishments were corporal.

Though we took our banners from scans of historical punishment books, that history is not what this blog is about. There will be accounts of punishments here, of course. The punishment book dot org is about punishment, especially spanking, being used to correct real life behavior. This is something the authors of this site all have in common, the use of disciplinary punishments in our real lives to some degree or other. Not as role play, although some of us are role players (and in some cases real life can feed role play). Not as foreplay, though some of us are into erotic spanking, but as part of our real lives and relationships. We're all pretty funny (well, I mean, in so far as we amuse each other), but this isn't a game. The issues of discipline and punishment are something seriously important to each of us.

Continue reading "Our Wooden Valentine: 5 Years, 201 Posts, 1.6 Million Visitors" »

Posted by Mija on 11 February 2010 at 11:41 AM in About the PB | Permalink | Comments (6) | TrackBack (0)

Welcoming Zille: Changes to the PB

Nine A quick look at the right sidebar will tell you the basics -- we've added another author to the PB -- something not done often or lightly.  This puts our number at nine, which the science (and here I use the word science quite wrongly) of numerology says represents the beginning and end of all human experience. 

Great, so no pressure on the new girl.  

Who is this new author?  

::drum roll::

It's Zille Defeu.  (Zille is pronounced as rhyming with "Jill" -- not "silly" or "file".)

Zille has her own website and blog with a lovely "about" page in case you want to get ahead of things.  She will, no doubt, be introducing herself in the coming days.  

Several of us have gotten to know her over the past year and then discovered that, of course, we have mutual friends.  In my case, I started reading Zille's Twitter feed at about the same time she started reading mine.  Tweets turned to emails and some phone calls before we met at Shadow Lane this past September and ended up talking about life, the universe and spanking.  

There's a lot I like about Zille and what she brings to the scene and 'net.  I want to go into some detail here, but keep deleting everything I put down because I don't want to force her hand in what she writes about or when she writes.  I'll stick with teasing -- there's a lot she can say here and I'm excited just thinking about her saying it.   When will be up to her.  So stay tuned.

Most importantly though, welcome Zille.  Nine is a great number and we're very glad to have you here. 

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Image Credit: http://www.flickr.com/photos/lwr/ / CC BY-NC-SA 2.0

Posted by Mija on 05 November 2009 at 02:29 PM in About the PB, Zille | Permalink | Comments (4) | TrackBack (0)

Love Our Lurkers IV

BLurkingiveloved and community minded Bonnie, over at My Bottom Smarts gives us a chance each year to remember we're not talking to ourselves -- that you're here reading too. And we all know that for every comment to the blog, there are hundreds of visitors who don't comment. We know you're there and it's always good to know there are readers, whether you choose to comment or not.  Yet it's so much more fun to write for a blog where there's lively discussion.

I know this blog has been quiet lately. This is partly due to many of us blogging elsewhere (see the list of our other blogs over to the right). It's also due to the PB blog having become less of a place to discuss the idea of punishment in a relationships and more of a place to record actual punishments received.  (Believe it or not, that we'd record our punishments here never occurred to me when we were first building the blog.)  Since most of us aren't punished very often, there ends up being long gaps between entries. Add to that my neglect in not realizing sooner that postings here were tapering off.

And yet you're still reading here -- even when the PB goes weeks and even months without new entries, our stats tell us that hundreds of people visit every day. So this is what I want to ask of you today -- keeping in mind the style of the blog (that is, this isn't going to suddenly become a place full of pictures of spanked bottoms, lovely though they might be and that we can't write about punishments that aren't happening -- give us some thoughts about what you'd like to find when you come here. What discussions would be useful or interesting?

Thank you in advance for your ideas. And as always, thank you for reading.

Posted by Mija on 13 October 2009 at 06:57 AM in About the PB, Mija, Musings | Permalink | Comments (11) | TrackBack (0)

Where I am now

About a month ago, Mija wrote to the authors of the Punishment Book about several things, and one of the things was a suggestion that, since this is our "blogiversary," perhaps we could each write a post about where we are now, in life, and in regard to this thing we do in our relationships. I kept putting it off, but since February obliged me by having an extra day, we'll see if I can manage to get a post written and slide in under the deadline!

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Posted by dykegrrl on 29 February 2008 at 03:23 PM in About the PB, Dyke Grrl, Musings | Permalink | Comments (4) | TrackBack (0)

All About Bridget!

Hi there everyone! As Mija mentioned already I did indeed write this intro recently in anticipation of being added to this site. I'm pretty excited to be here, so I hope I have something of value to add! Anyway, all the relevant details are bellow. I will wait nervously for your feedback!

I'm a young woman in my early twenties. I live in the middle of the USA with my family. My family consists of three children and three adults. No, we don't have grandma living with us. We have what is called a polyamorous relationship. Both myself and the other woman are involved with the same man. Are you scandalized? My parents are. This is an ongoing source of drama in my life. I'm sure you will hear about it again.

Most relevant to PB readers- what we have together is a Master/slave dynamic. In this instance He is the Master, and we are the slaves. In the most simple terms this means that He gets to control whatever he wants and we get to, well, obey.  When we fail at the obedience thing is when discipline comes into play. Yes, it's usually painful.

There are some external things that go with being a slave. We address Him as "Sir." We sleep on the floor.  We (read I) take care of most of the housework.  We usually don't get to watch what we want on TV.  Most of these things are actually more subtle than you might expect, though, and except for there being three of us we don't look that different from any of those sappy 1950s TV shows.

Continue reading "All About Bridget!" »

Posted by Bridget on 30 January 2008 at 04:59 PM in About the PB, Bridget, Musings | Permalink | Comments (12) | TrackBack (0)

Introducing Bridget as Our Birthday Present

Three years ago today the first entries to the PB went up!  Woot!  And to celebrate, a present for our readers and ourselves.

It's my pleasure to introduce a new PB writer today.  She's both thoughtful and delightful and her name is Bridget.  I know my procrastination in getting her added has been long enough that she's already got her introduction written so you have that delight to look forward to -- if you can't wait, the link to her blog is here.  But I'll post a few of my own details about young Bridget just as a teaser.

Bridget is in her 20s, part of a poly family and in a Master / slave relationship.  There have been occasions where I've heard What It Is We Do contrasted with BDSM and specifically the M/s dynamic but from what I've seen we've got a great deal in common, specifically in the area of being held accountable to an external authority.  But anyway, I'm looking forward to Bridget's entries here and everyone's discussion of them.

Happy 2008 and happy birthday to us!

Posted by Mija on 30 January 2008 at 04:25 PM in About the PB, Bridget, Mija, Musings | Permalink | Comments (2) | TrackBack (0)

Domestic Discipline vs. What We Do

Dyke Grrl's explanation in the comments section of the last post regarding why the term "domestic discipline" doesn't work for her reminds me of a conversation A. and I were having a few months back. It was about my bedtime and there were a number of factors complicating what should be a fairly straightforward issue. "I'm just following your lead," A. said finally. "Let me know what you want me to do and I'll do it."

I remember chuckling to myself at the time and thinking you'd never hear that sort of thing on most domestic discipline sites. But then, I've never really considered our disciplinary arrangement "domestic discipline."

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Posted by Natty on 25 October 2007 at 12:52 AM in About the PB, FAQ, Feminism, Musings, Natty | Permalink | Comments (8) | TrackBack (0)

Lurking Out Loud

Hi there.

Yes, we can see you.  Well, sort of anyway.  Our stat counter frequently tells us that there's more than a thousand readers a day here.  Okay, so some of those are hits from people doing a quick look for pictures (sorry folks) and then moving on.  But a lot of you stay and read.  Some of you comment (and we're glad of that), but others don't say anything.

This post is for you.  Because we understand -- we've all lurked too.  It's easy to wonder if your comments would be welcome.  Maybe you disagree with something one of us posted (that's fine, fun even).  We're all used to disagreement.  Or maybe it seems like we just talk to each other and a small circle of friends.  It is true we know each other, but we want to know you too.   

Go on, post a comment.  What about?  Anything.  Maybe a favorite book? 

I'll start.  For me, I think my favorite book of all time is Pride and Prejudice (with Jane Eyre running a close second).  I read it the first time at 12 and remember loving it then.  And every time I've read it since I've found something new to enjoy in the text.  What do I love most about it?  That both Elizabeth and Darcy have to change and develop.  There's something very romantic about that.

Okay, your turn!  And if you're a regular or irregular commenter, go ahead and say hi too!

Many thanks to the amazing Bonnie at My Bottom Smarts for organizing Love Our Lurkers day!

Posted by Mija on 12 October 2007 at 10:26 AM in About the PB | Permalink | Comments (39) | TrackBack (0)

SCAM Artist Alert OR I Feel So Dirty!

A year or so ago "Katie Spades" wrote to the Punishment Book authors telling us how much she liked the PB (including some dreck on us having "inspired" her and her partner) and asked us to link to her as she was starting a career as a spanking model.

Now we never do the "I'll link to you if you link to me" thing but a couple of PB writers liked the blog and said they were following it (that's always our criteria).  So a link to her blog went onto our sidebar (no  need to check, it's gone).

Today one of the other authors sent me this link from the A.S.S. blog.

Apparently Katie's been scamming us all.

(Katie: from the quoted beer.com podcast)
Here was the deal, like I wanted to make money. And to get a name for myself, but I wasn't quite sure how to do it, and I didn't want to go like straight up porn. So I looked around... and I saw the, well it's like this little community, the spanking industry... and for the most part... I mean there are a couple of pretty models... but for the most part there aren't many. So I looked at it as like okay, here is an easy way jump to the top of an industry like that, because I can totally take it over with the way I look. So I decided to do that.

I haven't actually listened to the whole podcast yet --I'm at work-- but I've heard enough.   A friend had pointed me to her "SAVE KATIE" campaign which was raising money to supposedly off-set expenses brought on by an "illness." The interview doesn't seem to mention that, but there's no reason to think that's true either.

As my grandfather would have said, what a piece of work! My sympathies especially go out to the kindhearted folks who were taken in by her "SAVE KATIE" scam to get money out of the community for help during her  supposed "illness."

Feh!

PS: Sending even more love out to the real models in our scene. You're 100X more fun to watch anyway.

Posted by Mija on 08 May 2007 at 12:06 PM in About the PB, Mija, Surreal, Weblogs | Permalink | Comments (26) | TrackBack (0)

We're *First*?

Today when I was checking our stats (yeah, I do it a lot, especially when bored at work), I realized that the PB makes Google's first or second page for the entry "punishment."  Cool, right?

Yeah, guess where we are on the page when if you Google "punished wife"?  Ouch!

Caned wife? Page 5.

Punishment Book?  First entry, page 1.

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And yes, these are generating a number of hits*, thanks for asking.

(*and no, that wasn't an intentional pun.  Double ouch!)

Posted by Mija on 04 October 2006 at 04:38 PM in About the PB, Mija, Weblogs | Permalink | Comments (5) | TrackBack (0)

A Brief History of Iris

At the risk of sounding redundant, I'll begin my post like Dyke Grrl and say how tickled I am to be asked to join the outstanding group of women who founded the Punishment Book.  It's both an honor and a joy, since there are so few venues for intelligent conversation about what we do.  Thank you all for the invitation.

Now.  On to introductions.  First, the stats: I'm in my late 20s, currently living in Minnesota, days (hours!) away from receiving my graduate degree, and getting ready to move to Los Angeles.  I'm a Midwestern girl, born and raised, so California will be a whole new adventure.  While I'll admit I'm not terribly fond of LA or Southern California, there are some people there I like very much--one in particular.  M and I have been dating for something like two years (depends on if you count from when we started dating or when we met), and it's going to be wonderful to be in the same metropolitan area.  We're going to be able to have dinner together and not have to plan it several months in advance!  :-)

Enough of the vanilla details.  I've been into spanking just about as long as I can remember.  The spines of many of my childhood books are creased at the parts where spanking occurs (M is always amazed when we come across books in stores and I can flip quickly to a spanking scene).  Fast foward 15 years to college, where I convinced my vanilla boyfriend to spank me as foreplay.  In retrospect I realize that he took to it like a duck to water, but I was always self-conscious and sure that I was the only one who got anything out of it.

After college I moved to Chicago where I discovered Crimson Moon and began to realize that my kink was not only normal, it was something to celebrate!  Yet I still had these nagging thoughts about discipline: I fantasized about it, wondered about it, craved it.  I entered into a wonderful relationship with Yoni and Tasha, who are now the owners of Bum Rap.  Yoni helped me start to understand my need for discipline and let me see that I could have it in an adult relationship and it didn't make me less mature or adult--it's just part of who I am.  (I still struggle with that sometimes; see below.)

And THEN I met M, which brings me to now.  How and where does discipline fit in my life at this point?  For one, I'm still discovering that it's much different in a relationship than in my head.  And it's very different in a long-distance relationship than in a regular, close-by one.  M and I are negotiating what it looks like for us.  He has been in the scene for a number of years but always swore he would only spank for pleasure.  As has been noted by some people, though, I could convert Gandhi into a disciplinarian. :-D   And M is adjusting to his role as top remarkably well. 

At the heart of it all for me is a need for security.  Parts of my growing up were really unstable and full of tension and I think I crave stability, security, and forgiveness.  When a spanking is over, it's over.  I've been held accountable, punished, and forgiven.  There's also the knowledge that someone is watching out for me, which means that my behavior and my Self matter to someone, that they care what I do and what happens to me. 

And there's something else, something intangible that I can't quite explain.  Every once in a while I need a big spanking "to clear out all the cobwebs," M says.  The daily stuff of life accumulates and I need to sweep it all out.  These are different from regular punishment spankings, which are for one specific issue (sometimes more), but they're the same in terms of the effect they have on me.  I feel lighter, clearer, and very very loved.  It's still one of the hardest things to admit to myself, that I need to be spanked.  If anyone else has thoughts on this, I'd welcome discussion. 

So that's mostly about me.  My mushy, end-of-semester brain will probably think of more to add as soon as I post this, but I do want to get something up by way of introduction. 

Warm blessings!

Posted by iris_731 on 18 May 2006 at 04:47 PM in About the PB, Iris, Musings | Permalink | Comments (9) | TrackBack (0)

Introducing Dyke Grrl

First, I'm thrilled, just thrilled that the women of the Punishment Book think I'm cool enough to join in.

Okay, so who am I? Well, hm. On my blog, I describe myself as a happily partnered lesbian/dyke spanko. This is true. I also describe myself as a grad student and aspiring housewife. These things are also true. Of course, there's much more to it than that.

In terms of the Punishment Book, perhaps I should start by talking about the role that discipline plays in my life and relationship. This is a complicated subject. I've been a spanko for probably all of my life, and for virtually all of the time we've been together, W. (my partner) and I have used spankings for role-play and foreplay and, you know, play.

Continue reading "Introducing Dyke Grrl" »

Posted by dykegrrl on 18 May 2006 at 02:18 PM in About the PB, Dyke Grrl, Musings | Permalink | Comments (4) | TrackBack (0)

Changes to the PB

Okay, this first bit is just something I wanted to mention in passing.  Even though you're very quiet, we know there are a lot of you here and you come pretty often.  Confession?  There's a stat counter here and so we know about 1200 of you a day land here.  And some of you stay for quite a while (more than two hours) and come back daily to check in on the happenings.  Go ahead, say something!  we know it seems like we just enjoy talking to ourselves, but we really would love to hear your point of view on whatever.  In my case at least, even if you think this is a bit (or a lot) freaky.  We're veterans of usenet... you'll have a hard time offending us, and even if you do we'll probably still answer you.  Go on.  You don't even need to put a real email address ([email protected] will work). 

So onto the changes.  Smallest first.  The links have been redone reflecting that more of us have scene-related sites and so do our partners.  So there's now a section called "Our Other Sites."  We've added a link to Haron and Abel's new blog, The Spanking Writers, and also one to sparkle's husband's site, Chris' Firehouse.  It's really cool to get our partners' perspectives, sometimes on the same subject or scene being discussed here. 

Big change?  We've added two new (well, new to us) authors to the PB.  They'll be posting their own introductions sometime in the next month or so (we're not big on deadlines), but it's fun to build the anticipation, right?  So here's an introduction to their introductions!

Dyke Grrl, who some us know from our days on soc.sexuality.spanking, has had her own blog about spanking and life, Breathing In & Breathing Out.  If you want to know more about her, you can either go to her blog and read.  Or wait with breathless anticipation here. In any case, we're delighted she wanted to join us!

In the interest of diversity and also because she's witty and a great writer, we've added Iris Bloom who we don't know from our (mostly) beloved newsgroup.  Iris first appeared here in our comments and it was only later that I (see I can almost never keep up the "we" voice for a whole post) realized I knew her partner from years ago adventures at some Shadow Lane parties.  Iris was the author of the BDSM survey (Mija's answers are here) that seems to have become a small meme.  If you want to know more about Iris, well, she has no blog that I know of so you're just going to have to wait until she shows herself.  I know I'm excited!

And so there you are.  Change is good.

Posted by Mija on 18 May 2006 at 05:39 AM in About the PB, Dyke Grrl, Iris | Permalink | Comments (13) | TrackBack (0)

FAQ Question 2: So How Can I Make My...

...[husband / wife / boyfriend / girlfriend / partner] decide to [discipline / spank / punish] me?

I'm not sure about the other women posting here, but I get emailed this question a lot.  We've gotten a couple people asking this recently either on this site or by email.  Haron answered it a bit here, writing:

...it's impossible to give advice without knowing more about you, your boyfriend, his preferences and your own. Is he even into spanking, or is he doing it to humour you?

On the whole, it's been my experience that the only way to "get" somebody to do anything is to discuss it with them, endlessly and painstakingly. To explain why it's important to you, and how it would make you happier, and what attracts you about it. I'm not in favour of pestering, but unless you communicate your desires clearly, he won't start punishing you out of the blue.

If you *have* talked about it, and he still won't do it - well. It's a different story.

This is a great answer to this question.  I'm going to write a bit more because, well, why not?

Continue reading "FAQ Question 2: So How Can I Make My..." »

Posted by Mija on 15 April 2006 at 03:01 PM in About the PB, FAQ, Mija | Permalink | Comments (12) | TrackBack (0)

FAQ Question 1: Why the blog?

It's been quiet here lately, for reasons I'll get to later.  But in the quiet, someone asked:

"How exactly did the 6 of you meet, discover your joint interest in spanking and decide to set up this blog?"

Continue reading "FAQ Question 1: Why the blog?" »

Posted by Mija on 13 June 2005 at 09:38 AM in About the PB, FAQ, Mija | Permalink | Comments (4) | TrackBack (0)

Blurring the Lines

I always thought RL discipline was such a hot idea and I fantasised about it being a part of my life. Then I experienced it. And of course reality can’t compete with fantasy. At various times I’ve felt absolved, conflicted, ambivalent, resentful and turned on by RL discipline. I’ve never quite been able to reconcile my feelings about it. Then Mija invited me to join this blog. At first I declined because RL discipline hasn’t really been a part of my life lately. I mentioned this to my partner. He raised his eyebrows and said, ‘Oh? Isn’t it?’ Well, fair enough.

We’re basically roleplayers. Obsessive roleplayers. We have a stable of different personae, some recurring, some one-offs. Which brings me to a favourite phrase: blurring the lines. One of the ways we’ve circumvented my resentment of RL punishment in the past is through roleplay. By way of introduction I’ll share one of those stories.

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Posted by Tasha on 16 February 2005 at 04:39 AM in About the PB | Permalink | Comments (4) | TrackBack (0)

Sparkle's Nutshell

My husband – C – will read this eventually, I’m sure of it.

He’ll admit he’s not a disciplinarian and doesn’t pretend to be one. In fact, he’s not particularly interested in methodic discipline, domestic or not. He likes spanking me because I squirm and wiggle and redden in a way that he finds particularly delightful when I’m over his lap. He doesn’t like spanking me when I frustrate and irritate him or disappoint him – he doesn’t ever spank me when he’s angry or hurt. And frankly, it’s easy to distract him when we’re making up (in a good way).

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Posted by sparkle on 09 February 2005 at 12:28 AM in About the PB, sparkle | Permalink | Comments (6) | TrackBack (0)

The State of Haron Address

My name is, and isn't, Haron. I'm 25 years old. I discovered spanking 7 years ago - it took me about four months from the day I got online. I hear, that's terribly slow for an average spankophile, but I have an excuse: I was busy learning English.*

 By the way, you could be sure that I always have an excuse for everything. For example...

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Posted by Haron on 06 February 2005 at 04:52 AM in About the PB, Haron | Permalink | Comments (5) | TrackBack (0)

Punishing Mija

Even though it was my idea to write these introductions, I've found lots of reasons to avoid doing my own.

I'm in my 30s, a Chicana feminist scholar and live with my partner (er, guess that's "husband" now) in Southern California. We met in 1997 via the usenet group alt.sex.spanking (now soc.sexuality.spanking) and had a long- distance relationship for much of the first six years. We both write spanking fiction which isn't here, but can be found on our website The Treehouse. Mija isn't my legal name, but has been my "real" name in the spanking fetish since my very first post. Eight years later it feels plenty "real."

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Posted by Mija on 05 February 2005 at 10:55 PM in About the PB, Mija | Permalink | Comments (2) | TrackBack (0)

What is "The Punishment Book"?

Punishment books were records kept by schools and reformatories recording punishments given. Records were kept of who punishments were given to, how much and why each punishment had been given. Most often, though not always, the punishments were corporal.

Though we took our banners from scans of historical punishment books, that history is not what this blog is about. There will be accounts of punishments here, of course. The punishment book dot org is about punishment, especially spanking, being used to correct real life behavior. This is something the authors of this site all have in common, the use of disciplinary punishments in our real lives to some degree or other. Not as role play, although some of us are role players (and in some cases real life can feed role play). Not as foreplay, though some of us are into erotic spanking, but as part of our real lives and relationships. We're all pretty funny (well, I mean, in so far as we amuse each other), but this isn't a game. The issues of discipline and punishment are something seriously important to each of us.

There's a lot of stuff about domestic discipline out there on the 'net, but not much any of us felt related to our lives, for reasons that will eventually be discussed in some detail somewhere on this site. The blog is our attempt to explain it all.

Oh, and just in passing, each of us have our own opinions, own lives and at least slightly different takes on every issue. Assume each author is only speaking for herself, her own situation and point of view.

We welcome comments on our entries. But please, no personal ads and no spamming.

Oh and we're all taken. At least currently.

Posted by Mija on 31 January 2005 at 05:29 AM in About the PB | Permalink | TrackBack (0)

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