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Bonnie's Question: Choosing Spanking

[I didn't get a chance to answer this Sunday, but it was such an interesting question I thought I'd reply here and and on my blog.]

This week at her brunch, Bonnie asked: 

Have you or your partner been given a choice between receiving a spanking or something else and chose the spanking? If so, how does the act of consciously choosing to be spanked alter the spankee's mindset?

In discipline or punishment terms, I always choose the not-spanking option.  It's not often that Paul gives me a choice -- a large part of what works in our dynamic is that I'm not in control, that I don't get to decide.  But when I've had the option of writing lines or something non-physical I think I've always chosen it.  This is because for me the idea that I could be spanked is the powerful one, more powerful even than the act of being spanked.  Part of that for me is that spanking has to feel like the last resort as a punishment, heavy enough that I'd choose anything else above it. That's the theory anyway.  The reality hasn't been tested much.

I suppose in reality most of the time I'm being punished I've chosen to be spanked in the sense that I could always opt out.  Probably.  I've never tried to though.  The times I've asked to be spanked / punished for something are few and far between.  Those have been very submissive moments and during the punishments I've found it easier to accept the pain and not struggle against it. 

Play is different.  I do ask for spankings sometimes in play / everyday life.  Those times, when I get them which is almost always, I feel a lovely contentment and gratitude for my partner.  Best of all?  When he pounces on me and spanks me just because he wants to -- those times I feel attractive and well loved. 

 

Posted by Mija on 07 December 2010 at 11:34 AM in Discipline, Fantasy, Mija, Musings | Permalink | Comments (4) | TrackBack (0)

Examining My Conscience

quia peccavi
nimis cogitatione, verbo et opere:
mea culpa,
mea culpa,
mea maxima culpa.

(Okay, this starts out like an account of a play scene, but isn't. If you're looking for that you're going to be disappointed.  Fair warning)

Here I'm going to digress just a little bit.  I'm Roman Catholic -- have been since birth.  My first 13 years of education were in Catholic schools, mostly taught by nuns.  In my own weird way I'm quite religious.  I'm not very spiritual however -- in fact I have almost no faith in God.  It's the ritual that attracts and comforts me.  I've been away from the Church for a while -- the typical lapsed Catholic. There are a number of reasons I've absented myself -- disagreement with RC politics and my own personal choices (marrying after a divorce and outside the Church being chief among them).  Being away and not attending Mass or joining my local parish have been my doing and I mostly don't feel inclined to return.  But right now it's May and the roses are blooming.  There are alters to Mary all around. 

Right now I miss my religion*.

Continue reading "Examining My Conscience" »

Posted by Mija on 05 May 2007 at 01:21 PM in Discipline, Fantasy, Mija, Musings | Permalink | Comments (17) | TrackBack (0)

What now?

Have you ever felt like you just had to be spanked or you would burst?  Like you wanted to fling yourself over the lap of the nearest toppy person (creepy neighbors excluded) and beg them to spank you soundly?  Or like you wanted to throw a tantrum in the middle of the street just so that someone would grab your ear and drag you off to be spanked?

Um, I have.

Continue reading "What now?" »

Posted by iris_731 on 14 December 2006 at 08:45 AM in Fantasy, Iris, Musings | Permalink | Comments (31) | TrackBack (0)

Life Imitates Art

I hate writing these entries. I really do.

Last week I was spanked for not doing housework. Again. This is the only thing I seem to get spanked for. Never mind that visitors often remark how clean and lovely the place is (and I’ll say it again – it’s a huge bloody house!); it’s never clean enough for his Lordship.

I’ve become Colette.

Continue reading "Life Imitates Art" »

Posted by Tasha on 03 September 2006 at 07:42 AM in Fantasy | Permalink | Comments (12) | TrackBack (0)

Spelling Redux

My previous account hints at an earlier spanking for poor spelling.  Here's the actual account, finally.

Once upon a time, many many moons ago, in 1997 when Pablo and I first started falling in love via email and posts to ASS, he wrote a story for me called  "Spelling" which was based, in part, on spelling mistakes I'd made in posts and emails to him.

For Christmas the following year he gave me a dictionary.  Though life, mine anyway, sometimes imitates art, the dictionary wasn't used in the following real life story.

Continue reading "Spelling Redux" »

Posted by Mija on 18 September 2005 at 02:45 PM in Fantasy, Mija, Slice of life | Permalink | Comments (8) | TrackBack (0)

Fantasy... meet Reality

It seems that a lot of our musings about the discipline lifestyle have to do with reconciling fantasy and reality. May I gently shove you all in the direction of this fascinating post  by DykeGrrl, where she explores the difference between spanking relationships in her various stories and her own life with her very real wife.

While you're at it, take the time to read about the poor girl's punishments in the surrounding posts; she does suffer so. :)

P.S. I do, in fact, have an actual punishment to tell you all about, but not before I do a lot more work than I've been doing in the last week. Stay tuned.

Posted by Haron on 30 August 2005 at 03:26 AM in Fantasy, Haron, Musings | Permalink | Comments (5) | TrackBack (0)

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