It seems that a lot of our musings about the discipline lifestyle have to do with reconciling fantasy and reality. May I gently shove you all in the direction of this fascinating post by DykeGrrl, where she explores the difference between spanking relationships in her various stories and her own life with her very real wife.
While you're at it, take the time to read about the poor girl's punishments in the surrounding posts; she does suffer so. :)
P.S. I do, in fact, have an actual punishment to tell you all about, but not before I do a lot more work than I've been doing in the last week. Stay tuned.